Meet the Neighbors

Moving to New York City, I was pretty sure that my life would be exactly like the TV shows in which young twenty-somethings move into amazing apartments and make lifelong friends. I know these sitcoms are shot on a soundstage, scripted, and totally unrealistic, but unrealistic is everything when you move to a city where youโ€™re lucky to find lunch for under $10. Even your chance to meet the neighbors is more glamorous on television.

Across from my four-bedroom apartment of all girls is another unit for four boys. Of course, we were destined to live the life of Friends, Monica and Rachel on one side, and Chandler and Joey across the hall. Weโ€™d share refrigerator goods, hang out at the coffee shop downstairs, and have oh so many laughable times together. Not.

Reality of Living with Neighbors in a City

In fact, for the first five months of living in my apartment, I didnโ€™t know any of my neighborsโ€™ names, and I was unlikely to get a โ€œHi!โ€ from someone while we were walking up or down the stairs together.ย  So that was unfortunate.

Iโ€™ve always been a social person: the door was always open to my college dorm and growing up my house was home to endless sleepovers, so living in a building full of strangers felt uncomfortable.

One day, I ended up baking far too many cookies and having nothing to do with them, so I printed out a sign and taped it to my door:ย  Homemade, Warm Cookies. Please Knock!ย  This is exactly what your parents warn you about: free food from strangers. But although New Yorkers can be hostile, Iโ€™ve found myself unnecessarily trusting of many a neighbor.ย  And my plan worked! I propped open my door, and as neighbors came in from the evening, they introduced themselves and enjoyed a free baked good.

Tips for Getting to Know Your Neighbors

Now that I’ve found successful ways to meet my neighbors in my building, I’ve come up with a list of methods for getting to know your neighbors.

Start (or join) a Facebook Group

This is crucial. When you move to a new building, find out if a group already exists. This is a great way to invite each other to building events (ie house parties), see if anyone wants to check out a local restaurant, or just complain about the building management. These groups can become essential if your building organizes against the landlord in the future, as it provides an easy way to connect with others.

We originally posted this article when Facebook was at peak popularity. However, many users still log into Facebook solely to check their group activity.ย 

Introduce Yourself

When you see someone coming in and out of the building, ask him/her a question and perhaps give him/her a compliment, introducing yourself as Name, Apartment Number.ย  When you see them again, make sure to address them by name and youโ€™re on to making a new friend!

Throw a Party

Whether its for your friendsย  or just for the neighbors, slip invites under neighborsโ€™ doors to let them know thereโ€™s something fun going on in the building. Itโ€™s an easy way to bond and little to no effort has to go into buying a bag of chips and some beer. And even if neighbors canโ€™t make it that night, theyโ€™ll appreciate the nice gesture and perhaps send a reciprocal invite.

Borrow Something

Do you need (or want to pretend to need) a cup of milk, a screwdriver, or help lifting something?ย  It may seem strange in a city where you can get anything 24/7, but asking your neighbor to borrow something (and of course bringing it back with a beer or a cupcake) will make a quick introduction and can stem to further conversation.

Door Signs

Theyโ€™re cheesy, but they work. We decorate our door for holidays, offer free goodies when we have them, and have definitely had the favors returned.

Meeting Neighbors Outside the Building

For out of the building acquaintances, make sure to frequent some local businesses on or near youโ€™re block.ย  Youโ€™ll start recognizing familiar faces and can easily introduce yourself in a non-creepy way.ย  Also, itโ€™s easy to befriend the staff behind the counter when youโ€™re a repeat customer, and thatโ€™s never a bad thing! Besides some free food, Iโ€™ve received plenty of advice from the cashier at a local Chinese restaurant.

Even if youโ€™re not naturally outgoing, remember that everyone else wants to make friends too!ย  And if they donโ€™t, theyโ€™re just not worth your time.

Editor’s Note: We updated this article to enhance readability.ย 

lawrence
lawrence
Lawrence part of the RentHop Data Science team with over a decade of experience in the real estate industry. In addition, he is a software developer and quantitative analyst with over 12 years of experience in software development and quantitative modeling. Lawrence merges two of his passions together to help renters across the nation with their home search.

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